The Tiredness is Overwhelming


Today, I saw a friend, looked after a super sick boyfriend and then was ready to spend the evening doing e-mails or maybe even something more exciting. But as soon as he left, I just wanted to sleep. I am now very much a believer of doing what my body needs if its realistic to do so, but as I lay there, I realised I wasn’t tired, I’d just lost my energy.

Recently I’ve had issues with my anxiety, last week I had two days where the strain showed through. Migraines, easy to anger, crying, confusion. I thought I was through the worst and aslong as I remembered to take my medication everything would get back to normal, but instead things are different.

The other day I woke myself up in the middle of the night, anxiety pulsing through my chest. I had dreamt I was going on holiday and it was the night before, so my body had started its usual thing of getting anxious for the flight. Except…there was no flight. Just me in my bed freaking out about it. I hadn’t experienced this in years. It was an unwelcome memory.

With my medication, my anxiety is now reasonably stable. Last week however, it was like i could feel the anxiety bulging out the sides, I knew it was there even though it was being pushed down. Today this became ever clearer, I went with a friend to a nearby cafe for brunch and felt my chest tighten just sitting with her and chatting. This was the first sign I started to get after being back from Hong Kong that my anxiety was bad. Otherwise I was able to function, eat, there was no need to rush to the bathroom, but it sat there heavy on my chest as a reminder of past experiences.

Once my boyfriend had left this evening, I went about airing out the room hoping not to get his illness. I had begun coughing when he was coughing, but I knew it wasn’t the same thing, I was there for the first 3 days he was ill and I haven’t caught it yet, but I admit I became quite the hypocondriac. Before you know it, my chest is tight, my throat hurts and I’m coughing. I stop myself and as I mentioned earlier just lay down to rest.

I’d forgotten how tiring and debilitating anxiety can be. I hadn’t even thought of this until my friend mentioned it at brunch. The medication makes me tired and I can sleep for hours, but the anxiety can turn my into a lifeless potato. I’ll lie and get nothing done I was supposed to, my normal entertainment gives me no stimulus and my mind starts to wonder into self doubt and damaging thoughts.

I know I need to use my tools here, a little meditation perhaps, but you need to be strong and willing to do that and often willingness isn’t your own choice.


Keep strong.


The Reoccurring Incident

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I sit in my flat, on my bed where I’ve been for hours. Sometime in the last half an hour, the rain started. With the window open and my flat’s position in the roof, I hear it tapping on the window. One in a long list of things that makes me want to set up camp in my bedsheets.

I am depressed, down, unsettled, unmotivated, unhealthy.

In none of my dreams do I lie in bed all day, but yet, here I am. Same feeling of shame, same efforts to get out, same reasons to get better.

I know by now it’ll pass, that my feelings will change, that I may even be happy for a while. I was a few months ago.

I’ve decided you can only be happy in one of two things;

  • life: Family, friends, relationships
  • Work: Money, job satisfaction.

But only one of those things doesn’t keep my head above water. It’s like a lifejacket that’s only inflated on one side. Yes, there’s enough air to keep you floating, but you could still make a mistake and death isn’t too far away.

These moments are full of low light, dressing gowns, brief moments of smiling and often the overwhelming urge to cry. The guy I’m seeing told me I was the best thing in his life right now last night, an overwhelmingly nice gesture and yes I cried. But then I thought, he’s the best thing in my life right now. More than anything that made me think more about what is in my life right now. It’s not a thought that wasn’t sincere, but the way your mind works when depression comes calling.

What is in my life right now:

  • Him
  • Our dates
  • My mum
  • My friends
  • The odd workshop
  • Brief moments of beautiful creativity.

What isn’t in my life right now:

  • Job security
  • A loving family
  • The ability to travel
  • Satisfaction
  • Interaction with human beings.
  • Challenge

Looking at the lists, it’s easy to solve the equation.

Sending Your CV out + Job Hunting – time in bed + scraping money to see family – being in my own home = Some form of satisfaction  or balance?

* * *

My day:

Wake up, I’m tired, I trawl through Facebook searching blindly for something to satisfy a hunger I can never appease. You need to do some work today. Get up, if at all possible an hour or two after my alarm, eat breakfast with a cup of tea I only ever drink half of and try desperately not to watch YouTube. Watch YouTube until there’s nothing left to see. Feel like an utter failure. Think about what I should be doing in admin or CV sending and get overwhelmed by the scale of it all. Probably nap.

I lose hours doing God knows what, clean the kitchen, tidy my room, eat. I consider doing the work again, If I did I would be on top of one thing. My mind turns to that place of overwhelming fear again. Irrational fear. Uncomfortable fear. Inconsolable fear. I consider buying a desk. I’d do more with a desk. I google, I IKEA, I decide I don’t have the money.

I eat, I let myself watch some YouTube or Netflix, maybe this will cure the insatiable itch for satisfaction. He’s been playing video games, having some time to himself after work and he texts me. For a moment I feel relief. But it’s not sustainable. I persuade him to go back to his games, not to worry about me, even convince him I have been working or sometimes just admit I’m completely unmotivated. Something happens, the time goes by, he rings me, I laugh, appreciate his voice and his sentiment and then I sleep. If I can, for as long as humanly possible, but never through the night.

* * *

The rain is now pouring, letting out the amount of water I would need to cry to feel like I’d got anywhere past this place I’m in. It’s magical and I stand entranced feeling like for a minute it understands where I’m coming from. I return to bed and the anxiety kicks in.

With no one to see this develop and progress every day of your life, it’s easy to get away with. That child-like side of me I perceive ignores her priorities again. Ignores life again for another day.

Everything happens for a reason.